Real MD

Dear Real MD,

            I currently have an issue with my older sisters new puppy. She keeps coming into my room and doing all of her business and eating my shoes. I told her that she needs to watch her puppy more closely. But she keeps ignoring me, mostly because she thinks I’m younger and my opinion doesn’t count. I don’t know what to do now because my parents are never home either.

Sincerely,

Puppysitter

Dear Puppy sitter,

           

            Puppies are a very big challenge and it is very possible that your sister is feeling over whelmed. I know that it can be frustrating to have that puppy do its business in your room and ruin your things, and even more so when your sister doesn’t listen to you. I would suggest that maybe you start taking initiative in training the puppy yourself. That way you would be showing that you are not a little kid to your older sister. Or you could ask your parents for a gate to put in front of your room or just shut your door after you leave your room every time. I hope this helps.

Regards,

Real MD

Dear Real MD,

            So I have had this friend for the past two years, and we have been inseparable.  We used to do everything together, and now he doesn’t like to talk to me or hang out with me. I asked him if I did anything wrong and he said no. So why is he not hanging out with me? I’m starting to think that something is seriously wrong and I don’t know how to help and I’m getting frustrated with him. Where do I go next?

Sincerely,

Concerned friend

Dear concerned friend,

            It sounds like your friend is going through some things and the hardest thing for someone in your case is to not want to help. But unfortunately I think that is exactly what you have to do. It sounds like what ever he is going through is something he wants to deal with by himself. So the only thing you can do is be open and available to him when he asks for you to hang out or talk. Don’t force things because this might not help his process.

Sincerely,

Real MD

Dear Real MD,

            I have been dating this girl for the past 3 years. Everything has been so great and she is the person I know that I want to spend the rest of my life. However I messed up and made out with another girl at a party. I sabotaged all of my trust with her and now I don’t know what to do. This happened once before but I stopped the person but this time I didn’t stop them. My girlfriend is a huge pillar in my life and I don’t want to lose her. Please I need help.

Sincerely,

Make out monster

Dear Make out monster,

            In this case I think that you have a pretty strong relationship with your girlfriend. However I do think that you should give her the choice to still be in a relationship with you by telling her the truth. Because that is not fair to her and it isn’t fair to you. Plus guilt can make people do crazy things! If she loves you and cares for the relationship chances are she will overlook this and your relationship might grow from it.

Regards,

Real MD

Dear Real MD,

            My roommate keeps eating my food. Help me make him stop.

Signed with regards,

Totinos peacemaker.

Dear Totinos peacemaker,

            Roommates are a difficult thing to deal with sometimes and they can be frustrating. I know this because I have been in your shoes before. My roommate in college used to eat all of my food! What I found helps is that you need to do two things. One approach your roommate directly and express your feelings. If he respects you and your space he will not continue it. However if he doesn’t you might want to think about putting a lock on your cupboard and getting your own fridge. Because if he didn’t respect what you said, he wont respect a shared space so make your space yours. I hope this helps!

Sincerely ,

Real MD

Dear Real MD,

            The guy I have been dating “casually” has been telling me he wants to marry me after three months of dating.  Yikes. I like the guy and he is super sweet but this whole marriage things is really throwing a wrench in my gears, and I don’t know whether to dodge it and continue or to let him go. Please help.

With love,

Wedding crasher.

Dear Wedding crasher,

            It sounds like this relationship may have reached its end. Not because you don’t care for the person, but you two are just in different mindsets at this point. When somebody says they want to marry you it means that they really want to do it but they are searching your feelings about it to know if you are in the same place. So what I would do if I was in your shoes is would break up amicably and maybe see where things take you two and if there is something there in a few months or few years you’ll know.

Regards,

Real MD.